Ezininzi abafazi ukubhala nam malunga ekubeni introverted kwaye iingxaki ukuba entail. Bahamba baphuma zabo kunye nabahlobo bakho ukuba uncwadi kwaye iinkwenkwezi. Yabo abahlobo unee ixesha labo ubomi kwaye intlanganiso umgangatho guys, kanti ngabo stuck kwi-yembombo sipping i-overpriced cocktail kwaye hayi ukufumana enye ingqwalasela. Ingxowa-uthando yi harrowing uhambo kwaye woluntu venue njenge-bar okanye club ingaba jungles ka-distractions ukuba benze ngaphezulu hinder kunokuba uncedo, ngamanye amaxesha. Ezi abafazi ingaba high-umgangatho kwaye kufuneka ezininzi olukhululayo qualities, kanti ngabo struggling ukuhlangabezana abantu kwi-wonke iindawo, non-internet dating imeko. Bethu Entshona inkcubeko, abantu kukho okkt ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo kufuneka indlela umfazi kule kwimeko yesi. Oku rhoqo terrifying kuba abantu baya rhoqo iintlungu ukusuka varying amaqondo”indlela anxiety”. Nangona kunjalo, oku kanjalo lunika a name kuba abafazi abo bamele ukuba neentloni.

Ngoko ke apho wenza benza inroads.

Impendulo ngu-goci njengokuba isenziwa kakuhle

Nkqu ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba neentloni, uyakwazi ukunika ngaphandle umzimba ulwimi oko kukuthi eshushu kwaye ngokumema. I-famous UCLA umzimba ulwimi nzulu wanikezela ukuba bonke unxibelelwano ngu-non-verbal. Oku asikuko kakhulu surprising, njengoko ulwimi waba yokugqibela ifomu ingxoxo ukuba humans evolved. Sisebenzisa nzima-wired ukuba decipher umzimba ulwimi abanye abantu kuqala kwaye ngaphezu kwazo zonke ongomnye. Ukuba umntu ijonga kuba threatening okanye ezivaliweyo ngaphandle, yethu yendalo biological impendulo ithi ukuphepha kwabo. Bethu abangamadoda ezingqondweni, thina andinaku distinguish i-attitude ukusuka kubekho inkqubela abo babe ngokulula uzole kwaye ngaphezulu agciniwe. Oku technique kakhulu imisebenzi yakho ukuthandwa ngenxa njani visually oriented sisebenzisa njengoko males. Nika ngaphandle kwezo imiqondiso yosasazo ukuze ibonakale njengoko kulula njengokuba kusenokwenzeka kuba a guy ukuba indlela kuwe. Xa i-nabafana guy catches ingqalelo yakho, ncuma, yenza iliso uqhagamshelane, kunikela kuye wonke isizathu indlela kuwe. Okwesibini, kwaye oku azinako understated, lokuthengwa kweenkonzo yenza a vital indima. Uza mhlawumbi ufuna ezahlukeneyo ngokwakho kwi abahlobo bakho kuba ixesha ixesha. Kwakhona, approaching umfazi e a bar ngu scary ngokwaneleyo, kodwa iqela kubo nangakumbi terrifying. Yenza lokuthengwa kweenkonzo njengoko kulula njengokuba humanly kunokwenzeka, wena kunye guy. Luluvo olulungileyo kukuba purposely hamba nge kuye kwi-vala proximity kwi indlela yakho kwi-restroom. Ngokongezelelweyo, uyakwazi linda kuba naye ukuya bar ukuba ukuze umntu usele kwaye kuya kuma elandelayo kuye ukuba ukuze zezenu. Ekunciphiseni yesitalato barrier ukuba unxibelelwano ngu njengoko kakhulu njengoko umzimba wakho ulwimi. Ngakumbi kuwe ngqo ilebhile ngokwakho njengoko”ukuba neentloni”ngakumbi ngayo abengu mna-ekuzalisekiseni isiprofetho. Njengoko kunjalo nge-ukuzonwabisa-building, kuya kuthabatha abanye umsebenzi egameni lakho end, kodwa iziphumo ziya kwaziswa kungekudala kulandela. Ixesha elizayo ufuna ngaphandle kunye nabo, funda indlela yakho ephumayo girlfriends ukuzithwala ngokwabo. Buza kwabo malunga yintoni imisebenzi kwaye oko akuthethi khange. Njengoko abantu, sino ukuthatha scary ezimnqakathi ukuba indlela. Nangona kunjalo, siya andazi umahluko phakathi ukuba neentloni waza shutoff. Ukuba ufaka ekubeni trouble attracting the guy ukuba umdla kuwe, ncuma, yenza plenty ka-iliso uqhagamshelane kwaye kumnika kwawo wonke isizathu indlela. Kwithuba elilelona lifanelekileyo imeko, omabini amaqela aya shoulder no uxanduva kwaye kuba conducive kwiintlanganiso dibanisa ndibano.

Kuphuma nge ukukuthakazelela nolwazi olutsha amava

Amaxesha amaninzi, shyness ngu ngokulula encapsulated yi-ukoyika. Njengoko vulnerability ngu kwaye rhoqo kuya kuba kakhulu nabafana

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